Entrust
We want some one else to take decisions for us. Be it our parents, our mentors, our bosses or even our children. Because taking decisions will result in being responsible for its consequences. That's scary for us.
And we want them to tell us what we want to hear. If their decision is not according to our want, we get angry and express our anger in many different ways.
We even start resenting them for imposing their ideas on us, after telling them implicitly or explicitly to give us orders.
I am talking about me and also about many patients of Dr. Paul in the the tv serial "In treatment". Almost all his patients want him to tell them that it is OK for them to behave dangerously or to take wrong steps. Just this once. If he says yes, they will be absolved from their responsibilities of the consequences.
Amy wants him to say that it is OK for her to cheat her husband. Alex wants him to say that he is ready to resume active duty as pilot in air force. And they go ahead and do these tasks, even when Paul does not utter these things. And there were terrible consequences.
Mama, I want to run/jump/go. If I fall, you will catch me. Won't you, mama?
Yes, that's what is the plea here.
But sadly, mama is not there.
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